Phyllis Diller

Phyllis Diller
Diller in a 1966 publicity photo
Birth name	Phyllis Ada Driver
Born	(1917-07-17)July 17, 1917 Lima, Ohio, U.S.
Died	August 20, 2012(2012-08-20) (aged 95) Los Angeles, California, U.S.
Medium	Stand-up, film, television, books
Alma mater	Sherwood Music School Bluffton College
Years active	1952–2012
Genres	Insult comedy, observational comedy, musical comedy, improvisational comedy
Subject(s)	American culture, self-deprecation, everyday life, religion, current events
Spouse	Sherwood Anderson Diller ​ ​ (m. 1939; div. 1965)​ Warde Donovan Tatum ​ ​ (m. 1965; div. 1975)​
Partner(s)	Robert P. Hastings (c. 1985–1996; his death)[1]
Children	6

Phyllis Ada Diller (née Driver; July 17, 1917 – August 20, 2012) was an American stand-up comedian, actress, author, musician, and visual artist, best known for her eccentric stage persona, self-deprecating humor, wild hair and clothes, and exaggerated, cackling laugh.

Diller was one of the first female comics to become a household name in the U.S., credited as an influence by Joan Rivers, Roseanne Barr, and Ellen DeGeneres, among others.^[2] She had a large gay following.^[3] She was also one of the first celebrities to openly champion plastic surgery, for which she was recognized by the cosmetic surgery industry.^[4]

Diller contributed to more than 40 films, beginning with 1961's Splendor in the Grass. She appeared in many television series, featuring in numerous cameos as well as her own short-lived sitcom and variety show. Some of her credits include Night Gallery, The Muppet Show, CHiPs, The Love Boat, Cybill, and Boston Legal, plus 11 seasons of The Bold and the Beautiful. Her voice-acting roles included the monster's wife in Mad Monster Party, the Queen in A Bug's Life, Granny Neutron in The Adventures of Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius, and Thelma Griffin in Family Guy.

Diller was born Phyllis Ada Driver in Lima, Ohio on July 17, 1917, the only child of Perry Marcus Driver,^[5] an insurance agent, and Frances Ada (née Romshe).^[5][6][7] She had German and Irish ancestry (the surname "Driver" had been changed from "Treiber" several generations earlier).^[5] She was raised Methodist but was a lifelong atheist, even in childhood.^[8][9][10] Her father and mother were older than most when she was born (55 and 36, respectively) and Diller attended several funerals while growing up. The exposure to death at a young age led her to an early appreciation for life and she later realized that her comedy was a form of therapy.^[11]

Diller attended Lima's Central High School, discovering early on she had comic gifts. Later, Diller observed, "I was always a pro— even as a little tiny kid. I was an absolutely perfect, quiet, dedicated student in class. But outside of class, I got my laughs."^[12] Diller studied piano for three^[13] years at the Sherwood Music Conservatory of Columbia College Chicago, but decided against a career in music after hearing her teachers and mentors play with much more skill than she thought that she would be able to achieve, and transferred to Bluffton College where she studied literature, history, psychology, and philosophy.

In 1939, she met Sherwood Diller, the brother of a classmate at Bluffton,^[13] and they eloped,^[14] marrying in Bluffton on November 4, 1939.^[5] Diller did not finish school and was primarily a homemaker, taking care of their five children (a sixth child died in infancy).^[5][15][16]

During World War II, Sherwood worked at the Willow Run B-24 Bomber Plant, in Ypsilanti Charter Township, Michigan.^[14]

In 1945, Sherwood Diller was transferred to Naval Air Station Alameda^[17] Alameda, California,^[18] where he was an inspector.^[19]

Diller began working as the women's editor at a small newspaper,^[20] and as an advertising copywriter for an Oakland department store.^[18]

In 1952, Diller began working in broadcasting at KROW radio in Oakland, California. In November of that year, she filmed several 15-minute episodes of Phyllis Dillis, the Homely Friendmaker—dressed in a housecoat to offer absurd "advice" to homemakers.^[21] The 15-minute series was a Bay Area Radio-Television production, directed for television by ABC's Jim Baker.^[22][21] Diller also worked as a copywriter, later, director of promotion and marketing,^[14] at KSFO radio in San Francisco^[23] and a vocalist for a music-review TV show called Pop Club, hosted by Don Sherwood.^[24][25]

"It took two years of nagging by my husband to get me onto that stage," she (Diller) told Nachman. Finally, she said, she "sat down, called the Red Cross and said, 'I have an act. Where do you want it?' They sent me to the veterans hospital at the Presidio, where I pushed a piano into a room that had four guys in it. I played, sang, told jokes while they yelled, 'Leave us alone; we're already in pain!'^[20]

At age 37, on March 7, 1955, at the North Beach, San Francisco basement club,^[26] The Purple Onion, she made her professional stand-up debut.^[20] Up until then, she had only tried out her jokes for fellow PTA members at nearby Edison Elementary School.^[27] Maya Angelou, who was already performing at the club, wrote that Diller "would not change her name because when she became successful she wanted everyone to know it was, indeed, her herself".^[28] Her first professional show was a success and the two-week booking stretched out to a record^[14] 89 consecutive weeks.^[29] Diller had found her calling and eventual financial success while her husband's business career failed. She explained, "I became a stand-up comedian because I had a sit-down husband."^[12]

In a 1986 NPR interview, Diller said she had no idea what she was doing when she started playing clubs and in the beginning, she never saw another woman on the comedy circuit. With no female role models in a male-dominated industry, she initially used props and drew from her educational and work background as a basis for satire, spoofing classical music concerts and advice columns.^[30] She wrote her own material and kept a file cabinet full of her gags, honing her nightclub act. Sid Caesar, Milton Berle, and Jonathan Winters were early influences, but Diller developed a singular comedic persona — a surreal version of femininity. This absurd caricature with garish baggy dresses and gigantic, clownish hair made fun of her lack of sex appeal while brandishing a cigarette holder (with a wooden cigarette because she didn't smoke), punctuating the humor with a hearty cackle to show she was in on the joke.^[12] At the time, Diller said, "They had no idea what I was. It was like—'Get a stick and kill it before it multiplies!'"^[29]

Her first national television appearance was as a contestant on Groucho Marx's quiz show You Bet Your Life in 1958.^[31] Multiple bookings on the Jack Paar Tonight Show led to an appearance on The Ed Sullivan Show, which brought her national prominence as she continued to perform stand-up throughout the U.S.^[29][32]

Starting in 1959 and throughout the 1960s, she released multiple comedy albums, including the titles Wet Toe in a Hot Socket!, Laughs, Are You Ready for Phyllis Diller?, and The Beautiful Phyllis Diller.^[33]

From 1961 to 1965, Phyllis Diller lived in Webster Groves, Missouri, a suburb of St. Louis.^{[34][35][36][37]} Several of her children had stayed with Sherwood's relatives in St. Louis, and the oldest, Peter, attended Washington University.^[35]

In the early '60s, Diller performed at the Bon Soir in Greenwich Village, where an up-and-coming Barbra Streisand was her opening act.^[12] She was offered film work and became famous after co-starring with her mentor Bob Hope, who described her as "a Warhol mobile of spare parts picked up along a freeway."^[38] They worked together in films such as Boy, Did I Get a Wrong Number!, Eight on the Lam, and The Private Navy of Sgt. O'Farrell, all critically panned, but Boy... did well at the box office. Diller accompanied Hope to Vietnam in 1966 with his USO troupe near the height of the Vietnam War.^[39]

She appeared regularly as a special guest on many television programs including The Andy Williams Show. She was a Mystery Guest on What's My Line? but the blindfolded panel (including Sammy Davis Jr.) were able to discern Diller's identity in three guesses. Diller made regular cameo appearances, making her trademark wisecracks on Rowan and Martin's Laugh-In. Self-deprecating to a fault, a typical Diller joke had her running after a garbage truck pulling away from her curb. "Am I too late for the trash?" she'd yell. The driver's reply: "No, jump right in!" She became a semi-regular on The Hollywood Squares, starting in 1967, appearing in 28 episodes until 1980.^[40]

Diller continued to work in film, making an appearance as Texas Guinan, the wisecracking nightclub hostess in Splendor in the Grass. Throughout the 1960s, she appeared in more than a dozen, usually low-budget, films. She also began a career in voice work, providing the voice of the Monster's Mate in Mad Monster Party (1967).

Diller also starred in the short-lived TV series The Pruitts of Southampton (1966–1967); later retitled The Phyllis Diller Show, a half-hour sitcom on ABC. She received a Golden Globe nomination in 1967 for her role in Pruitts.^[41] Diller hosted a variety show in 1968 titled The Beautiful Phyllis Diller Show.^[42]

Beginning December 26, 1969, she had a three-month run in Hello, Dolly! (opposite Richard Deacon), as the second to last in a succession of replacements for Carol Channing in the title role, which included Ginger Rogers, Martha Raye, Betty Grable, and Pearl Bailey. After Diller's stint, Ethel Merman took over the role until the end of the show's run in December 1970.^[43][10][44]

Diller continued working in television throughout the 1970s and 80s, appearing as a judge on premiere and subsequent episodes of The Gong Show^[45] and as a panelist on the Match Game PM show.^[46] She also guest-starred in The Mouse Factory, Night Gallery, Love American Style, The Muppet Show, CHiPs and The Love Boat. In 1978, she hosted a Showtime comedy special which featured Robin Tyler, who became the first out lesbian on U.S. national television.^[47] Between 1999 and 2003 she played roles in 7th Heaven and The Drew Carey Show.

Her successful career as a voice actor continued when Diller guested as herself in "A Good Medium is Rare," a 1972 episode of The New Scooby-Doo Movies. In 1998, Diller provided the voice of the Queen in A Bug's Life. Among her other animated films are The Nutcracker Prince (1990, as Mousequeen), Happily Ever After (1990, as Mother Nature), and Casper's Scare School (2006, as Aunt Spitzy).^[48]

She voiced characters in several television series, including Robot Chicken, Family Guy, Wait Till Your Father Gets Home, Captain Planet, Cow and Chicken, Hey Arnold! as Arnold's grandpa's sister Mitzi, The Powerpuff Girls, Animaniacs, Jimmy Neutron as Jimmy's grandmother, The Wild Thornberrys, and King of the Hill.^[48] She also played Peter Griffin's mother, Thelma, on Family Guy in 2006.

Citing advanced age and a lack of "lasting energy," Diller retired from stand-up in 2002. Her final performance was at the Suncoast that year in Las Vegas, Nevada. At the time she stated, "If you can't dance to comedy, forget it. It's music."^[31] The 2004 documentary Goodnight, We Love You: The Life and Legend of Phyllis Diller, directed by Gregg Barson, was shot on the night of her last performance. It follows Diller to a press conference, backstage, and into her home, to cover the story of her career. Rip Taylor, Don Rickles, Roseanne Barr, Red Buttons, Jo Anne Worley and Lily Tomlin are featured, discussing Diller's comedy legacy.^[49]

Diller suffered a heart attack in 1999, and hasn't done stand-up since being fitted for a pacemaker.^[13]

Although retired from the stand-up circuit, Diller never fully left the entertainment industry. In 2005, she was featured as one of many contemporary comics in The Aristocrats. Diller, who avoided blue comedy, did a version of an old, risqué vaudeville routine, in which she describes herself passing out when she first heard the joke, forgetting the actual content of the joke.

On January 24, 2007, Diller appeared on The Tonight Show and performed stand-up before chatting with Jay Leno. Leno has stated that Diller would infrequently call him to contribute jokes during his time as the host of The Tonight Show.^[50] The same year she had a cameo appearance portraying herself in an episode of Boston Legal. In 2011, she appeared in an episode of her friend Roseanne Barr's reality show Roseanne's Nuts.

In January 2012, she recorded a version of Charlie Chaplin's song "Smile" with Pink Martini's Thomas Lauderdale for the album Get Happy.^[51]

Publishing her first best seller in 1966 and releasing more throughout the decade, Diller's books on domestic life featured her self-deprecating humor. The titles include Phyllis Diller's Housekeeping Hints, Phyllis Diller's Marriage Manual, and The Complete Mother.^[29] In 1981 she published The Joys of Aging & How to Avoid Them.^[12]

Her autobiography, Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse – My Life in Comedy, co-written with Richard Buskin, was published in 2006. In it, Diller told of an unhappy childhood with undemonstrative, emotionally withholding parents, and an equally unhappy first marriage. From these beginnings, her performing style—telling rapid-fire jokes—emerged, which she compared to music: "One joke followed the other with a flow and a rhythm. ... Everything had a natural feel to it."^[23]

In the early 1990s, Diller had many short, humorous pieces published in Ellery Queen's Mystery Magazine.

Diller had studied the piano for many years and was an accomplished player but decided against a career in music after hearing her teachers and mentors play with much more skill than she thought that she would be able to achieve. She still played in her private life, however, and owned a custom-made harpsichord.^[52]

Between 1971 and 1981, Diller appeared as a piano soloist with symphony orchestras across the country under the stage name Dame Illya Dillya. Her performances were spiced with humor, but she took the music seriously. A review of one of her concerts in The San Francisco Examiner called her "a fine concert pianist with a firm touch."^[53]

Diller, a self-taught artist, began painting in 1963. She worked in acrylics, watercolors, and oils throughout the 1970s and filled her Brentwood, California home with her portraits and still lifes. In 2003, at age 86, she held the first of several "art parties," selling her artwork along with her stage clothes and costume jewelry.^[54][55]

Diller credited much of her success to a motivational book, The Magic of Believing^[56] (1948) by Claude M. Bristol, which gave her confidence at the start of her career.^[57][35][58] She was married and divorced twice. She had six children from her marriage with her first husband Sherwood Anderson Diller, and she outlived two of her grown children.^[10]

Diller's second husband was actor Warde Donovan, whom she married on October 7, 1965. She filed for divorce three months later, after discovering Donovan was bisexual and an alcoholic, but they reconciled on the day before the divorce was to become final. The couple divorced in 1975.^[10] Robert P. Hastings was her partner from 1985 until his death on May 23, 1996.^[6] In a 2000 interview, she called him the love of her life, saying that he admired her for being an independent person.^[59] The character of "Fang," the husband whom she frequently mentioned in her act, sprang from an appropriation of elements of the comic strip The Lockhorns.^[60]

Diller portrayed herself as a horrible cook in her stand-up routines, but she was reputed to be an excellent cook. She licensed her recipe for chili and sold it nationally as "Phyllis Diller Chili".^[61]

Diller candidly discussed her plastic surgery, a series of procedures first undertaken when she was 55, and she wrote that she had undergone 15 procedures.^[10] Her numerous surgeries were the subject of a 20/20 segment on February 12, 1993.

By 1997, as she passed her 80th birthday, Diller began to suffer from various ailments. In 1999, her heart stopped during a hospital stay. She was fitted with a pacemaker but had a bad drug reaction and became paralyzed. Through physical therapy, she was able to walk again.^[59] Approaching age 90, Diller retired from stand-up comedy appearances.

On July 11, 2007, USA Today reported that she had fractured her back and had to cancel an appearance on The Tonight Show, during which she had planned to celebrate her 90th birthday. On May 15, 2012, Diller conducted her final interview accepting the "Lifetime Achievement" award from her hometown of Lima, Ohio, as part of a panel of comedians.^[62]

Diller died at home in the Brentwood neighborhood of Los Angeles on August 20, 2012, at age 95, from heart failure. She was cremated, and her ashes were scattered at sea.^[63][64][65]

Diller was one of the first solo female comedians in the U.S. to become a household name. She stated that making people laugh is a powerful art form.^[66] As a pioneering woman in the stand-up field, she inspired many female comedians including Joan Rivers, Lily Tomlin,^[27] Ellen DeGeneres,^[67] Margaret Cho and Roseanne Barr.^[68] Diller herself was influenced by comedy books and appropriated from sources like The Lockhorns.^[60]

Barr, who listened to Diller's records as a child, called her a true artist and revolutionary, saying, "It was timeless, that wacky, tacky character she created; the cigarette holder was genius, paradoxically regal. She was a victorious loser hero, the female iteration of Chaplin's Little Tramp."^[68]

Fellow comic Joan Rivers paid tribute to Diller's early-career woman's point of view, saying, "She was the first one that there was such rage and such anger in her comedy. She had the anger that is now in all of us. And that's what made it so funny because she spoke for all these women that were sitting home with five children and a husband that didn't work."^[15]

Diller had a large gay following from the beginning of her career, once saying, "My first audience were gay people because they have a great sense of humor."^[69] An obituary in Queerty noted her popularity with gay audiences calling her a "strong-willed entertainer who challenged the status quo regarding gender and sexuality." She enjoyed the company of gay men,^[70] writing in her memoir, Like a Lampshade in a Whorehouse: My Life in Comedy: "Gay men have the most wonderful sense of humor. And they are willing to laugh. They appeal to me and I appeal to them."^[3] In 2021, Ginger Minj portrayed Diller in the Snatch Game of Love on the sixth season of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars.

A New York Times remembrance noted that Diller's flamboyant look is echoed in Lady Gaga's concert attire and that Eddie Murphy also punctuated jokes with a loud laugh, in a style reminiscent of Diller's persona.^[11]

Diller was an outspoken proponent of plastic surgery at a time when cosmetic procedures were secretive. Her public admission to having several facelifts, nose jobs and other procedures added promotional and comedic value to her act.^[29] She told Bob Hope in 1971 that she had had a facelift because "I got sick and tired of having the dog drag me out to the yard and bury me."^[71] The American Academy of Cosmetic Surgery gave her an award for bringing plastic surgery "out of the closet."^[4]

In 2003, after hearing of the donation of Archie Bunker's chair to the Smithsonian Institution, Diller opened her doors to the National Museum of American History. She offered them some of her most iconic costume pieces, as well as her gag file, a steel cabinet with 48 file drawers with more than 50,000 jokes she had written on index cards during her career. In 2011, the Albert H. Small Documents Gallery at the National Museum of American History displayed Diller's file and some of the objects that became synonymous with her comedic persona—an unkempt wig, wrist-length gloves, cloth-covered ankle boots, and a bejeweled cigarette holder.^[12]

• Honorary House mother, Alpha Epsilon Pi Fraternity at UCLA, 1966^[72]
• Golden Apple Award for Most Cooperative Actress – 1966.
• Laurel Award for Female New Face 11th place – 1967.
• Golden Globe nomination for Actress in a Television Series – The Pruitts of Southampton – 1967.^[41]
• Awarded Star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame for her contribution to Television – January 15, 1975.^[73]
• Women's International Center Living Legacy Award – 1990.^[74]
• American Comedy Award for Lifetime Achievement – 1992.^[75]
• Diller lived in St. Louis with her family from 1961 to 1965 and was inducted into the St. Louis Walk of Fame in 1993.^[76][77]
• Daytime Emmy Award nomination for Outstanding Service Show Host – A Tribute to Bob Hope – 1998.
• Women in Film Lucy Award, recognizing her achievements in enhancing the perception of women through the medium of television – 2000.^[78]
• San Diego Film Festival Governor's Award – 2004.^[79][80]
• Lifetime Achievement Award from hometown Lima, Ohio – 2012.^[15]
• Diller's July 17 birthday is officially "Phyllis Diller Day" in Alameda, California, where she got her start in radio and television.^[27]

Wikimedia Commons has media related to Phyllis Diller.

• Phyllis Diller at the TCM Movie Database
• Phyllis Diller at IMDb
• Phyllis Diller discography at Discogs

Video

• Phyllis Diller at The Interviews: An Oral History of Television
• Phyllis Diller's TV Debut with Groucho Marx video, 13 min.
• Phyllis Diller stand-up comedy show, 1977 on YouTube video, 6 min.
• Diller Interview Comedy Hall of Fame, Archives, 2006
• One of the last full length interviews with Phyllis Diller on how she wants to be remembered on YouTube

Audio

• NPR interview, Phyllis Diller: Still Out for a Laugh
• NPR: Not My Job: Phyllis Diller August 4, 2007, on Wait Wait...Don't Tell Me!